I’m talking today about why boundaries are important; a topic I love talking about and one we don’t talk about enough. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or overworked, this topic will be particularly relevant and helpful to you.
The idea of setting boundaries makes a lot of people feel uncomfortable. I want to break the stigma that ‘boundaries’ is a dirty word and talk about why they are actually essential in helping you thrive in your career and every area of life.
The idea of setting boundaries makes a lot of people feel uncomfortable. I want to break the stigma that ‘boundaries’ is a dirty word and talk about why they are actually essential in helping you thrive in your career and every area of life.
In this episode, I share my perspective on establishing healthy boundaries and how they act as a personal protective bubble that ensures your health and happiness are intact.
In order to implement the boundaries that will serve you in every aspect of life, you first need to understand what your nonnegotiables are. I share my tips on how to do this so that your boundaries are effective, and will help you live more authentically aligned with your values.
I also share some troubleshooting tips to help you throughout the process of setting and implementing your boundaries. I talk about the importance of communication, why you don’t need to apologise for setting boundaries, and why you need to take full responsibility for your own happiness.
If you want to show up as the best version of yourself, carve out space for the things that light you up, and set parameters around the things that don’t, I encourage you to be intentional about your boundaries. When you do this, you’ll be empowered to live a life by design rather than by default.
Topics discussed:
[1:40]: A lot of people avoid putting boundaries in place but they are a game changer in supporting you to have the career and life you really want.
[2:15]: Boundaries are guidelines that determine acceptable behaviours.
- They provide a framework to make sure our own needs and desires are being met and protected
- They articulate to others how we except to be treated and how you decide to show up in your life.
[3:00]: Boundaries enable me to be present and compartmentalise my life effectively
[3:35]: We all have boundaries in place but in many cases, we’re not aware because we haven’t set them intentionally. The more deliberate we become, the more aligned our lives and careers will be with what we want.
[4:25]: Boundaries need to serve a purpose. Work out your nonnegotiables in different areas of your life and the unspoken rules you have in place.
[6:40]: When you understand your nonnegotiables, you can live more authentically aligned with your values.
[7:40]: Check out the Career Confidence Masterclass on my website
[8:15]: Once you’ve established your personal boundaries, you need to implement them. This will likely feel uncomfortable at the beginning and you be open to reviewing what’s working and what isn’t.
[9:30]: You need to take care of your own needs before you can effectively help someone else.
[10:05]: You and you alone are responsible for your own happiness. Life doesn’t happen by accident so you need to start living by design to fulfill your own wants, needs and desires.
[10:45]: No one else cares about your dreams as much as you do. If you’re serious about pursuing your goals, you need to take complete ownership. Use your boundaries to prioritise what you need.
Troubleshooting tips
[11:15]: #1: Do not apologise for having boundaries.
[11:45]: #2: Communicating your boundaries will make it easier.
[12:20]: #3: Don’t expect other people to respect or be happy about your newfound boundaries.
[13:06]: #4: Boundaries will change. It’s entirely up to you to adjust as you see fit.
[13:35]: #5: Enforcing boundaries can be uncomfortable but it doesn’t need to be a hard process.
Resources
Website: https://www.beautifuldisruptions.com
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